Mommy Duties

I was inspired to write about being a mom just by watching my kids sleep soundlessly in the middle of the night.  Well soundlessly isn’t the correct word for that because both of my kids snore loudly. If I remember it correctly, the first time I knew I’d be coming to be a mom was at the age of 21 and still studying, it made me feel sick.  Because in a matter of seconds a lot of questions arises in my mind.  What will happen to me? How would my parents react to this? What will happen to me? Will I at least graduate from college? All of it was answered by the guidance of my parents and the support of my family and friend.  My first pregnancy did well, I’m attending my classes and even took the final examination for two consecutive days while in the process of a very painful labor. I stayed in the hospital for two weeks because I was operated under a cesarean labor and still it didn’t make my studies worsen, in fact the next day I got discharge from the hospital I did a group report in one of my subject in class.  The thing is when you became a mother in an unprepared manner you’ll suffer the consequences, like balancing your time to your mommy duties as well as the college education I really wanted to finish.   

Thankful to God, friends and family I graduated, maybe because I got a perfect inspiration, my daughter.  Now this time on my life, I’m a single mom with two lovely kids some ask me if I have regret with what I have in life, I proudly say NO.  I have no regrets having two kids that made my life complete even if it means a lot of hardships and sacrifices in the process.  There’s no easy way out in everyday life. You just have to work twice as hard as everybody else to survive.  I need to provide food and education for my kids, every parents is doing their part to give every love and support to their children.

Blessings keeps on coming my way most especially for my kids and my families because I got the job that everybody would dreamed of getting.  I got to work at home and get enough time to spend with my loved once.  Our company offers the best deals in providing the excellent Virtual Private Assistant for our clients to feel they are not alone in making their business successful.  For more info. Visit www.VKWinc.com and let us know how we are in service for you. 

Relationships

Every woman is looking for their prince charming.  Since childhood we envied Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty.  But as we grow older we realize there’s no such thing as Prince Charming.  Some of you might not agree in my way of thinking, but correct me if I’m wrong.  All the fairytale character that I mention didn’t really get their happily ever after that easily. There’s the wicked witch in their way or the evil step sisters and step mother all the time.  But since we are in-love with the meaning and worth of being in-love, we dreamed of our personal happily ever after.  I’ve been in-love once and got 2 beautiful kids out of the 5yrs. relationship.  Now, after 2 years of being a single mother, I ask myself, where is my righteous price charming and my happily ever after?  I’ve been there but failed over and over again, so why would I let myself fail for the nth times? At this moment in my life I can say that I am satisfied with what I’ve achieve except for the fact that I’m a loser in terms of having a relationship with the man I love.  For the simple reason that I let him treat me like I’m just a girl he can get but can’t be proud of.  Yes, I have a month long relationship with a man who can’t present me even to his friends and family. And I’m such an idiot allowing that to happen.

 Maybe that’s why they call it stupid love? Because in some part people let themselves be stupid enough to be treated unfairly, like what I did.  If you think the worst part in this relationship is over, the answer is NO.  I caught him twice being a womanizer, the first one is with my own eyes and the second is through his family.  But being the very stupid one I let that pass me, again.  So the reality I’m facing now is the question, is he worth the sacrifices and hurt that I let myself get into.  I’m starting get a phobia from getting into a serious relationship because it always comes to my mind the past relationship I’ve been through.  Scared that I might end up a loser, be hurt and be left out again.

Being on Top

Everybody wishes to be on top of the world. A successful career, wealthy living and to become famous. Why not? It’s the reason why we study hard and why we wanted to give a better education for our children. Me for instance, I grew up from a poor family and my parents did everything they can just to give me and my 2 siblings a good education. Even though were not the riches family, still we are happy and my mom always gives us a lecture regarding the power of prayers. She usually says “don’t forget to pray, it always works”. Now that I’m in the process of learning my way being on top, you can’t help but bump into some crabs that think you can’t make it. But I don’t damn care, as long as there’s important people like my family, friends and loved one's who believed in my true worth I can prove those crabs wrong. I admit I’m not as intelligent, as experienced and as competitive as others portray they are but I know where I stand. I don’t need to step on others just to make my way easier, I work on my own and I work hard. I don’t need to be insecure because I’m receiving all the support I need on a daily basis. Yes, it’s not as easy as I expect it to be but as I remember it correctly, I once answer to a manager on one of my job interview that “there’s no easy job”, which makes me land that position . Honestly speaking I’m ashamed to be called the “General Manager” specially the fact that I’m appointed, because usually you need to acquire the talent. Maybe I can’t blame others to be jealous just because they are dying to be in my position at this point in time. Others as I call them think that I don’t deserve to be where I am now. I guess being lucky comes up with being nice, honest and trustworthy. You’re being rated by your conduct from the very start you dreamed of being on top.

My Profession by Choice: A Single Mom and a Virtual Assistant

I’m a 27 yrs old single mom with 2 kids.  And life is not as easy as I dreamed it would be when I was younger. But don’t get me wrong, having beautiful children makes me complete.  And there always comes a time that your given choices that would affect your life personally and professionally.  I’m just a regular invoicing staff from a manufacturing and distributing company back then, and one day I’ve been offered by a friend to be the assistant of her fiancée.  Mr. Leo von Wendorff is an entrepreneur who’s starting his own business, Outsourcing Broker.  I’m familiar with the booming business of outsourcing here in the Philippines, but being a Broker? What does it do? Or rather what will I do? A lot of terms coming from my head that I don’t know.  I’ve been offered a Laptop, free Internet connection, home based job and with much higher compensation that’s unarguable, which obviously made me accept the position. But here’s the catch, being a simple employee doesn’t need you to speak the English language fluently and proficiently, atleast not in my position back then.  And its not the hardest part there is, I have a very low self esteem, so everytime I chatted with my new employer , “Bigboss” Mr. von Wendorff as I usually call him has to boost my morale. It always amazes me when he do that, and you can’t find that kind of employer anywhere.  He trusted me more with my ethics rather than my skills, because as he said skills can be learned through hard work, while ethics are born within yourself.  While I’m in the process of developing a lot of knowledge in the virtual assistant world, I can’t help but think how far I would last to this.   I enjoy much quality time with my kids because I’m working at home but at the same time I received a lot of noise and disturbances because of working at home.  But the challenge I’m facing in being a Virtual Assistant is on how I can cope up with a very intellectual person, Mr. von Wendorff, he always get things done and he share all of his knowledge and skills in terms of internet technology. He himself became a virtual assistant that’s why he understand the process and guides me all throughout.  Now, after months of working for him I’m getting hold of my emotions further and make it a point that I get my ego up all the time.  I’ve improved my low self esteem problem and trying to be the General Manager in the making.